The Bigger Picture

Posted by mollyskiss on Saturday May 23, 2015 Under Photography

The Bigger Picture

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“I see myself through others eyes and I am made anew” Do you know where this comes from? Tsk, tsk, if the answer is no, as it is on the homepage of my blog right up at the top. They are my words and reflect what taking and sharing my self portraits has done for…
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How The 50 Shades of Grey Series and Movie Have Impacted the BDSM Lifestyle

Posted by submissive guide on Friday May 22, 2015 Under Uncategorized

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/21/15

I had, for the longest time, an opinion that I was not going to write about or mention the “50 Shades of Grey” series on this site. I’ve never read them and have no desire to see the movie, but I have read countless reviews and read-alongs from others in the community and the media to make up my mind about some of what I knew would be prevalent within the literature and newly released movie. Just days after the movie released, this site received a spike in views that more than doubled what it averaged on any other given day – that alone brought my voice to the front and I knew I wanted to give some of my viewpoint on how this piece of popular culture has impacted the BDSM lifestyle and the communities that participants mingle in.

If you’ve lived in a cave for the past 4 years let me give you a little summary of the books from Amazon:

When literature student Anastasia Steele goes to interview young entrepreneur Christian Grey, she encounters a man who is beautiful, brilliant, and intimidating. The unworldly, innocent Ana is startled to realize she wants this man and, despite his enigmatic reserve, finds she is desperate to get close to him. Unable to resist Ana’s quiet beauty, wit, and independent spirit, Grey admits he wants her, too—but on his own terms.

Shocked yet thrilled by Grey’s singular erotic tastes, Ana hesitates. For all the trappings of success—his multinational businesses, his vast wealth, his loving family—Grey is a man tormented by demons and consumed by the need to control. When the couple embarks on a daring, passionately physical affair, Ana discovers Christian Grey’s secrets and explores her own dark desires.

On that premise it (Want to read more...)

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Elust #70

Posted by mollyskiss on Thursday May 21, 2015 Under e[lust]

Elust #70

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Photo courtesy of Exposing 40 Welcome to Elust #70 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #71? Start with the…
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How To Nurture A Dominant Submissive Relationship

Posted by cinful on Wednesday May 20, 2015 Under BDSM

When you’re in a relationship that focuses on power exchange, it can seem like this happens in one direction: the submissive serves the Dominant, without questions. While this might be the fantasy and the energy you want to create in a scene, it is still just a FANTASY. In reality, there are two (or more)…

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Email Proposal Deemed Perfect Introduction to HBO Special

Posted by thedailyflogger (BDSM SATIRE) on Wednesday May 20, 2015 Under News


Martin Jimenez, 34, was surprised to find an invitation in his morning email to meet a “Lifestyle Master and his willing submissive” in a downtown hotel for a session where the Master would “watch while his submissive’s limits were pushed,” ostensibly by a stranger.

Instead of going to the police, Jimenez called the reality TV producers and HBO with the suggestion that they may be interested in following along to get the inside scoop on “what led to his grizzly and gruesome murder.”

According to Jimenez, “these things never turn out well or like you think they are going to. I am pretty sure they were going to try to murder me and rather than call the cops, I thought I should try to get a TV deal.”

HBO would not confirm their involvement, but The Daily Flogger team did see a camera crew being dispatched and Jimenez being wired with a mic and hidden camera.

When asked about the risk of actually running into a dangerous situation, Jimenez was thoughtful. “I am sure they will have my back. After all, this isn’t TV, this is HBO.”

The Daily Flogger has been unable to reach Jimenez since the filming, but there are rumors in the trades about a new show from HBO which promises to “shock viewers and expose them to the dark side of the BDSM world.”

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Ask lunaKM – New to BDSM, where do I find Information?

Posted by submissive guide on Wednesday May 20, 2015 Under Uncategorized

Me and my boy friend have recently become interested in a D/s relationship I want more information but I’m not sure where to look.

Knowing where to start can be difficult when you don’t know a whole lot about BDSM. You have at least taken a good first step by encountering Submissive Guide and there is a wealth of information there about submission that you can learn from.

To get started, I recommend signing up for the free Starting Out Ecourse to learn more of the basics about BDSM and submission to see if this road really is what you want for your life. It’s a 5 lesson course to help you get you toes in the water. You can sign up for the course here:

It’s an exciting time when your partner wants to try BDSM and you’ve been aching for this very moment your entire adult life. Being novices together can be exciting and difficult all at once. You see what your fantasies are but you have no real idea how to make them happen safely and without stepping on each other’s toes.

Some of the best resources are books based on BDSM relationships and introductory information. While I will say that what you read online is generally good information, you have to take everything with an open mind. Not everything you read will work for your specific relationship or your personal submission. There is a list of recommended books for novice submissives on the site and I know that Dominants can also gain a lot of insight from these books. Another decent location for information is It’s a social network with groups on a variety of topics related to BDSM and D/s lifestyles. If you can pick your way (Want to read more...)

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Ask Anything – If I Tell My New Dom My Limits, Won’t He Use Them Against Me?

Posted by submissive guide on Wednesday May 20, 2015 Under Uncategorized

A reader writes:

My fiance and I have discussed starting a D/s relationship. This is something I’ve done before and something I like. In our everyday lives I control 99 percent of what goes on around me, but when we are in the bedroom I need, want, desire, fantasize about being dominated. He isn’t too much into this lifestyle. 
I wanted to start by having us both wrote down our thoughts, questions, wants, needs, likes, dislikes, limitations, and over all general idea of what should take place during this relationship.
Knowing that I’m ocd about controlling my life I couldn’t do this outside the home or even just the bed room so where do we start? How do we start, and when? Should we start by trying it out in just the bedroom, than maybe go further with pushing it out to being the whole house?
I’m pretty open to trying anything new in the bed room but I do have certain things that are very big no-no’s. I have discussed these with him before but I’m a little afraid he will use this during this relationship as punishment. So do we use safe words or phrases?
He wants to set limitation because he thinks that he might take it to far. I don’t know that I want too set limitations because I wonder what he will do to me. That thought alone turns me on more than I every imagined.
Do you have like a beginners guide to D/s?
Any advice on any of this will really help.

Some excellent questions here, so let’s dive right in.

First, the easy questions: Do I have a beginner’s guide to D/s? And, how/where do you start?

Funny that you should ask. :-)

Here’s one.  It’s more for your fiancé to check (Want to read more...)

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Posted by mollyskiss on Wednesday May 20, 2015 Under Impact Play


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Tell me your secret desires, whisper them into my ear. I want to hear them, in your words with your voice no matter what they are or who they are about. I want to know them, all of them. The dirtier the better, don’t hold back, give me every last droplet of filth that you…
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City Has More Leather Groups Than People

Posted by thedailyflogger (BDSM SATIRE) on Tuesday May 19, 2015 Under News


With the formation of the latest group, Boys in Leather Who Support Girls in Leather, the Los Angeles area has finally reached a critical threshold where there are actually more leather groups than there are people in the local lifestyle.

According to Master Chip, 47, the frenzy of group creation started in early 2013 and was the product of a handful of people who “felt the need to belong to everything.” As Master Chip described is “any time there was the announcement of a new leather group forming anywhere, one person in particular would need to create a local version of the group, get others to join, and elect herself president.”

With the formation of the latest group, this self-proclaimed “power slave” has created more than 1200 leather groups and serves as president of 1185 of them, including some which she is not even qualified to belong. The local community population is calculated to only be 1199 active lifestyle leather practitioners, making it officially outnumbered by groups.

When asked for comment, she declined an interview as she was “too busy currently setting up her 37th MAsT chapter which she will lead starting later this month.”

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Book Review: Bondage Snippets by Verianna LaCroix

Posted by submissive guide on Tuesday May 19, 2015 Under BDSM, Reviews

Bondage Snippets by Verianna LaCroix isn’t like any other non-fiction BDSM book that I have read. Instead of being a book that explains the in and outs of the dynamic or a how to type of book. Bondage Snippets is a book that gives you a sneak peek into the lives of male and female submissives, male and female dominants, switches, and even vanillas who give snippets into their lifestyle. The snippets from the people the author interviewed vary in length from a sentence or two to several paragraphs. These snippets primarily focus on bondage and sexual submission.

LaCroix got the idea for this book when her master noticed how interested she was in other people’s perspectives in the BDSM lifestyle and encouraged her to interview people and write down the ones she found to be the most interesting ones into a journal which eventually became this book. The people who were interviewed range from housewives who have secret online relationships with their dominants, those who are involved in a full-time dynamic and everything in between.

When I started reading this book, I had no idea how I was going to write a review for it. Even when I read father, I still had no idea how to review this book. LaCroix has created a very unique book with sharing these glimpses into other people’s lives with her readers. Like the author, I am always interested in seeing how other people explore and practice the BDSM dynamic within their relationships. Some of these snippets I found interesting, other ones, not so much and there are quite a few that are quite thought-provoking. There were times where I could find myself relating to a specific story and other times I found myself wondering what the heck the (Want to read more...)

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