We posted about the Hole a while back, but there were no picture of me in said Hole. Well, for fun Master brought along the camera for one of our play sessions in the Hole. So, here’s a few pictures.
Snuggled up with Rexie.
Master gave me the camera and had me take a shot from inside the Hole. This is all I could see. I’m surprised anything showed up because of how dark it is in there. I have a little blanket on the bottom of the Hole, and I have been keeping Rexie in there for me to play with. Master removes him when I have to go in the Hole for punishment time, though that doesn’t happen too often.
One thing that’s fun about the Hole is when we do pet play in it, like above. We don’t always do pet play in the Hole, but sometimes Master will tease me when I’m in kitty mode by poking his hands through the side of the door or by crinkling my toy where I can hear it but not reach it. He just goes on about how cute I look in there, and it’s fun for me to be boxed up. I always wanted a cage, but this little bit of closet seems to be working just fine. <3
Posted by submissive guide on Tuesday Mar 11, 2014 Under Submission
Recently I heard something in the midst of a talk about obedience that just made me stop and really think for a moment – and I mean deep thought too!
Delayed obedience becomes immediate disobedience; partial obedience is complete disobedience.
Yes, my mind had to reflect on the matter of obedience. Honestly, I can’t say I’ve always been obedient – as a child, an adult, or even as a slave. But I hadn’t ever considered any parts of the bigger picture of what it means to be disobedient, either, until now. It struck me that I hadn’t ever considered delayed obedience as immediatedisobedience, nor had I considered partial obedience as complete disobedience ~mind blown~. I only thought of disobedience as willfully not completing a task or deliberately going against the Master’s expressed desires, commands, and rules/protocols.
When a slave delays in her obedience she has intentionally (even if she says otherwise) decided to pull back on her submission – this is the pinnacle of disobedience. That one decision, especially if it happens regularly, says so very much. It’s a subversive act also, and it does work against the authority of the Master and the submission of the slave, which of course harms the overall relationship. The slave says, “I’ll get around to it,” which of course is fine if there’s a plan of action that has been put together, but then she would be saying, “I’ll get to it after doing this or that.” In my humble opinion, if the attitude is usually rather lax towards tasks and assignments and all things are done ‘whenever I feel like it’, then, well ones obedience can definitely come in to question, among other things but this post is about obedience.
“But, Master, at least I did (Want to read more...)
I’ve never had a temporary brand done, and so Master was eager to have me document my first one. He was even more excited than me. I mean, I thought maybe a picture every few days or a week would be nice, but he kept getting really excited.
“It’s been six hours! Let’s get a picture!”
“It’s been twelve hours!”
“We need a picture at the one day mark!”
Lol. Not that I mind. I love it when he gets all enthusiastic about things like this. The brand was done by Dr. Clockwork and we hadn’t done any temporary brands, so we were excited to see how this one would go. We met up with Dr. Clockwork ahead of time and he told us about the types of designs he could do and how they could be pretty elaborate, which isn’t what I initially thought. Cool! So, that picture above is a selfie of me while Master drew the design he wanted on me with ballpoint pen. Ballpoint pen isn’t ideal (for the record), but we only had about a day to prepare, so it’s what we had on hand.
Here’s the shot of the brand as it was being done. You can see that my uber pale skin was getting red from the sparks singing my skin. Master thought I did an especially good job taking the brand. It was super intense and I loved the feeling.
Six hours after the initial brand was done, this picture was taken. My skin was mostly back to normal color though it was still red in places (bad hotel lighting makes it hard to see that). I was also beginning to get raised lines on my skin, where it had been completely flat before.
Here’s a (Want to read more...)
Her love for him was fresh and untainted. It was a sunny day with a hill of untouched snow. It was delicate. It was a pretty picture. Their tracks went back and forth on top of the hill. They hung on to each other for better footing. Neither wanted to upset the fragile allowance beneath [...]
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Posted by TheStylishSubmissive on Monday Mar 10, 2014 Under Uncategorized
Posted by submissive guide on Monday Mar 10, 2014 Under Submission
from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12/7/13
Whenever I frequent online groups, a common theme in them is telling the person asking a question to not be a doormat. Rarely do we ever get a description of what a doormat submissive is or how to prevent becoming one (or even if the person is actually a doormat submissive). There are many misconceptions of what a doormat in a relationship looks like and many of them are also traits of a submissive so how can you tell if you are submissive or a doormat. So let’s get down to the basics and work from there, shall we?
A doormat person in a relationship, any relationship is one who exhibits no drive for personal improvement, never has an opinion on subjects, and essentially floats through the relationships passively. It can also be how you are treated, such as a partner who cares for your things less than they do theirs, who ignores your opinions and tells you that asking questions isn’t allowed. Often, doormat people have very poor self-esteem, feel that they can’t leave the relationship because they don’t have a choice and often withdraw from social interactions. Most importantly they feel disrespected by the person they are supposed to trust most, their partner.
Every behavior, every habit, and every personality trait HAS an underlying reason or root experience that can be traced back to it. We don’t develop fears, or anxieties, or traits spontaneously or for no reason. If you are afraid of being alone, there is a reason for it. If you are afraid of commitment, there is a reason for it. If you are needy, or dependent, or insecure, etc etc… there are reasons for those too.
Disclaimer: The following thoughts are my opinion. I am not a trained professional. If (Want to read more...)
Posted by Miss Pearl on Sunday Mar 9, 2014 Under Psychology
Today I’m going to talk about scars. Not the flesh kind that give the physical body its unique character and where an injury didn’t quite correct itself on the skin, but where the scar is ripped or worn into your psyche.
Reading based on stereotypes, it’s not a ‘done’ thing to be a dominant and have been an abuse victim- not unless it’s well into the past and you are speaking from a place of power. I’m not old enough that my relationship mistakes are youthful foibles compared with my current conduct. I went through a really, really bad relationship and it ended at the start of last year. The impact of that lives on.
I can’t masturbate while someone fondles and touches me from my right side. That’s the legacy from my Ex. Being touched that way was a typical conclusion of sex I was profoundly not into, and the flashpoint for one of the major sticking points of the relationship, my ability to leave into the inside of my own head. When things soured, I was too pissed off at his mistreatment of me, and him too selfish about my needs for us to work well as a couple, and I was too terrified of dealing with him and how treated me when he was upset to want to address my anger- besides, I fundamentally had lost trust of him and thought he didn’t care about my needs.
So we had a lot of sex based on me being annoyed that my orgasms were slaved to his, and that I had no choice- I had to come to get him to fuck off. It was an earlier trend- when our relationship was mostly cybersex based, when I wanted to sign off and go to bed he would make (Want to read more...)
Posted by submissive guide on Sunday Mar 9, 2014 Under Uncategorized
This week KnyghtMare is going to spend 4 whole days at froggyKM’s house. That means I’m all alone. It is a treat that I look forward to especially since we both work from home and I have no private retreat in the house. I don’t have any plans while he’s gone, but I’m sure the kitties will get lots of attention!
We got to do a bit of play the other day and I’m sporting bruises, for the first time in months. I’m liking it and wishing I was in the mood for SM play more often because the experience is wonderful. How often do you get to do SM play?
Ask lunaKM Column Moving
At the end of March there will be no more Ask lunaKM questions posted on Submissive Guide. I have moved the column off-site to a Tumblr blog which fits the need quite well. I’ll still answer anonymous questions but the column will be there instead of here. I’ll showcase my responses to recent questions here in the Weekend Reflections!
Check out Submissive Guide’s New Tumblr “Ask lunaKM” column!
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Dug Out from the Archives
Let’s dig into the archives and reconsider some of the (Want to read more...)
Posted by mollyskiss on Saturday Mar 8, 2014 Under Photography
Whilst looking through my edited pictures trying to decide which one to post I came across this that I took back in January. Seeing as I have spent the weekend in the presence of epic boobage I thought I would post my own version and dedicate it to my wonderful friend @RubyGoodnight
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Posted by TheSubMission on Saturday Mar 8, 2014 Under Uncategorized
There always seem to be those few little forgotten bits that you forget to write about. I’ve been a little out of it, and still am sleeping too many hours in the day trying to catch up for the moment. Oops. =^.~= There’s two memories from vacation that I wanted to go back and add in.
One of them was from the stun gun class. Master is a smart man, and he (for the most part) doesn’t like to do anything to me that he hasn’t had done to himself. There are exceptions, for example, he doesn’t want to be peed on, doesn’t want penetrative sex, etc… But, all in all he tries toys on himself before he uses them on me. In the stun gun class we were given the opportunity to try out the stun guns. I was sitting there trying not to have a heart attack (I was completely panicked and not happy one bit!), and Master decided he wanted to have the stun gun tried out on himself. I don’t remember if it was him or someone else who hit him with a reasonably low voltage stun gun to begin with, but he yelped somewhat, and decided to try something a little heavier. I could barely see straight at that point, but he told me he wanted me to hit him with it.
So, I wobble and get up, walk over and Master is standing there somewhat scared looking (but mostly, very brave looking). He showed me where he wanted me to briefly touch the stun gun to him and, shaky hands and all I started to inch forward.
“Are you sure you want me to do this?”
“Yes,” says Master.
“YES,” says Master.
I inch forward, and touched his thigh. I was so (Want to read more...)