Thank you so much for your response post. I am new to the scene and have been communicating with a few people and I spoke to a Dom and we seem to get along and hope to meet. Well silly me responded to a post.. and I received an email about being considered by a Dom.. and I couldnt undertand. You have shed some light.

Real excellent post, I am sure many subs feel like you. Here is my answer from the perspective of a Domme, and then a woman.

As a Domme I think the idea of consideration is good. I do not see it as a negative thing, I actually see it as a reward. I meet a sub, I see him/her a few times, I decide I am seriously considering him/her but want to see more before bestowing the honor of being my sub. Its also, for me, a protective move. I don’t let myself get to involved right away…cause god knows many subs fuck up after a few meetings or ‘loose interest’, or can’t commit. So its their trial period.

Now as a woman I TOTALLY get your frustration, especially in this case. NO I do not think you are being selfish at all asking this. Your Dom is not providing you the security you want from him, he is confused emotionally and he is dragging you down with him. Its the typical ‘I like you but don’t want to comit’. What makes the difference btw what I wrote above and your case? The 2 1/2 months. I see a sub 2-3 times and place them in consideraiton. I would NEVER wait that long to basically hand over a half-assed decision.

I do think at this time you are right in wondering if he is worth the submissive effort. he should have placed you in consideration a LONG TIME AGO.

My 2 cents