Book Review: Anal Pleasure and Health
Posted by Mystress Lady Evyl on Tuesday Sep 8, 2009 Under Anal Sex, Mystress Lady Evyl, Reviews, Safer SexI have a really interesting review for you today of a book sent to me by the wonderful Babeland.com people.
I just finished reading ”Anal Pleasure and Health” by Jack Morin, Ph.D. It was very enlightening on a subject where, well, the sun don’t shine. Although I have not practiced anal play (in a regular serious manner) in some time it is an activity that I enjoy and fascinates me. So I thought taking on this book as a challenge would be a great way to learn more about how to do it safely and in an enjoyable manner.
Now let me warn you right away there will some “Too Much Information” in this next paragraph so if you are uncomfortable with that I would suggest skipping till you see ***
I am gonna be very honest with you all and share my personal experience and health about by asshole lol. Ok so prior to being a Mistress I have attempted no more then one handfull of times anal penetration with 3 partners. They were all mostly not pleasing and painful. Of course at the time I had no freaking clue about anal play at all. I do recieving anal play, rimming and the occasionl finger but its got to all be gentle. Move forward to being a Mistress: I have deflowered a many subs butts and penetrated accustomed anal players. That I did after some reading on safe and fun ass play so it usually went well. Now for anal health…not good. I have been suffering from fissures for a few years and its always raw and itchy. Also after reading this book I realize I have chronic anal tension, meaning my anal muscle is always tense. Obviously both not good for anal sex. If I had 1 regular partner that was truly patient and gentle I might be open to trying.
***When men ask me…and its the funniest when they are vanilla and clueless to my bdsm side…if I like anal, I alsways say I love giving. The look on their faces is precious. Usually its confusion and if they smart it leads to understanding and avoiding me, or they are into it and have a million questions. But for me I am not a fan of recieving….but a bit curious.
So back to the book. It is written by a therapist who specializes in anal health. He has led researches for decades and knows his, pardon the pun, shit! The book is well written and it is in laymens terms. But it can be a bit dry. It reads like a therapy book which just happens to reffer a lot to anal health and play. At no time will you take this book to bed with you for a masturbation session.
Had I been the editor I would have skipped a few chapters about some research analysis and sociological theories. But the progression of the self-help chapters is excellent. He dicusses the beginings of anal exploration, experimenting with butt toys, and all the way to full anal penetration. All steps are divided into chapters that include exercises to learn to relax and explore you asshole. Every chapter’s exercise pushes the previous one a little bit further…but only if you are ready. There is a lot of emphasis that you should only do the exercises if you want to for you and if you are ready. Also strongly suggested is writting in a journal. I actually thought it was an excellent idea considering his approach.
The author covers almost everything you may ever want to know about the ass. He even claims his exercises can heal medical problems if not interested in the sexual aspect. So try it to cure your hemorrhoids, fissures, constipation, etc. There are however 2 things I beleive he skipped over. He talks a lot about the complexes we have towards the clealiness of the ass but he could have gone more into details. He sort of says “get over it, its not dirty” but lacks in giving proof. Second thing I would have liked to have info on is if there is any harm in overdoing anal penetration. A gay friend of mine is very anxious of loosing control of his anus in later years. I think its a genuine concern that should have been addressed. Although the book was updated, it could be reviewd a bit more. It was written in 1998 so it talks about AIDS a little too much. Don’t get me wrong, AIDS and HIV are huge problems to this day, but you can tell its outdated as the book was written during the crissis. Other then that he covers safe anal sex perfectly.
For the sake of the review I did read through the whole book in one shot. I do plan on going back to the exercises and exploring my anal pleasure as he describes. Where did I put my personal anal plug again? But as I read it I became very aware of my anus and did some relaxation of it a bit. I am also much more conscious of my stool cycle and my actual defecation process. Yeah I know sounds gross but but your health is directly related to how your stool comes out, both in performance and result.
I recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn more about how to receive and give anal pleasure in the safest and most enjoyable way. You will learn a lot about yur body and your mind when it comes to your and your partner’s anus. The book is aimed at all genders and sexual orientations. I give it a 4 1/2 starts out of 5.
Mystress Lady Evyl
September 19th, 2009 at 8:52 am
The whole loss of sphincter control in later life is something that worries me greatly too. I do find it odd that the book hasnt been updated in a decade with information and statistics about this aspect of anal. Surely someone must have done the research?
September 19th, 2009 at 11:22 am
I totally agree there is a major lack of good research on this. I did a bit of a google search and its the usual Don’t do it crap.
I did find one site though that reflects my thoughts: http://gayteens.about.com/od/safesexstds/f/Anal_Sex-risks.htm
“Despite a lot of people’s fears, having anal sex will not lead to an enlarged or loose sphincter or anus or a loss of bowel control. Some people actually believe that regular anal sex actually gives people better bowel control. According to author Tristan Taormino this can occur because, “In order to take something inside your rectum, you have to learn how to relax your sphincter muscles. The more you practice controlling these muscles, the more you are exercising and toning them (just like any other muscle). You are not stretching out or loosening the sphincter muscles, you are simply relaxing them to allow penetration.”
…so in my non medical opinion if you have a lot of anal sex its your duty to exercise ans keep your sphincter toned as well. Its a muscle after all. If you know how to relax it you should tone it too.
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