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cross-posted from The Enigmatic Angel

Lady Gaga – Bad Romance

It was an odd thing the way this just struck me.

Anyone who knows me, knows I dislike following the mainstream.
My taste is the alternative layer of the alternative layer, multiplied.

But a sound and a vision slipped through and snuck in.
I was fascinated and drawn in, almost against my will.
It was like witnessing and being in a car crash at the same time.
And still wanting more.

Two words, simply put: Lady Gaga.

I love her videos, her creative vision, her ridiculously catchy, contagious and absurd beats and lyrics.

She’s crazy. She’s weird. She’s fascinating.
The fetish gear and fetishes. The dark & kinky story lines of her music videos.

Just look at her face. Odd features. Plain if you wash away all the dramatic make-up.
But an interesting canvas.

Is she a she/he? Transgendered? A woman? Who knows.

And this Lady business.

It begs the question: Is she really into BDSM, what with the honorific title and all?

Or is she just a shrewd marketer who knew how to create her vision, make it appeal to the masses, with flirting with the deeper end?

Just for fun, I searched on Fetlife to see what fetishes and kink can be found related to her, because surely amongst the kinksters and BDSMers there are the ones who worship at the Haus of Gaga.

Yes kinky folks she is on FetlIfe!! She’s here.
That’s if she turned back the clock (all of 18 years old) and moved to Rio.

Oh and other fun gagalicious-related FetLife stuff:

One Fetlife Group:
OMFG… I just fucked Lady Gaga: A survivor’s support group..

Two gagalicious fetishes:

Here is something I never do.
I am posting a video with this, just because.
The video is simply gagalicious and must be.

Kinky kisses,
Angel

cross-posted from The Enigmatic Angel

Ah it was good to be back, back in the public kinky waters of Montreal.
Attending the FetLife Munch felt like kind of going home again.

I was happy to see a few of my favorite usual suspects. Like my good friend and some time *evyl* co-conspirator Mystress Lady Evyl, and one of my very favorite couples in our local scene MsV (our gracious hostess) and Master Andre, her fellow whipmaking partner.

Oh and what fun it was to slap hello my fellow Switch drakor, who I hadn’t seen in awhile. I do believe that small slap put a little twinkle in his eye. And what are friends for?

It was also fun to meet some intriguing new people, including a warm & entertaining couple of out-of-towners.

And you never know where the conversation can lead during a Munch. Topics ran from the Intellikilt (you just had to see it to believe it) and the legendary practical jokes between John Baku (boy wonder founder of Fetlife) and MasterZChicago.

I picked a great event for my return to the public scene – laid-back, fun & funny conversation with fellow BDSMers and kinksters, over some tasty seafood and steak. I actually liked the fact that it was a smaller crowd as well, was easier to talk to people.

My plan had originally been to go on to one of the other many happenings in town. Three other tempting events in the dark side were also going on during the night. I was really interested in finally attending one of KinkMontreal’s little happy hours, which was scheduled a bit later on in the night. But seeing as I had a vanilla date planned for the morning, I decided to call it a night, as my fellow Munchers went each to continue their wicked evening with more dark fun in the night.

It felt good to be out again and happy I was to be in the kink-friendly Gay Village.

Being back in the Village made me remember how much I love roaming around that neighborhood. I love seeing all the wonderfully exotic range of gender-bending human creatures who stroll through the Village on a hot summer night.

Little snapshots caught my attention as I headed off home.

There a couple of gorgeous young boys casually walking together hand in hand.

Oh and a bashful pretty girl in a summery cotton white dress, eyes meekly looking down. Her black leather collar and silvery leash attached making a lovely contrast. Ah how tempting it was to just reach out and take that leash….somewhere.

And I headed on home still smiling my Mona Lisa smile filled with secret thoughts and thinking how very interesting my life is these days.

It’s so true how life brings such wonderful things when you have no expectations.

Kinky food for thought,
Angel

Sometimes there are benefits to being bored and randomly searching Fetlife. Lately I’ve been doing much pondering on what my role/label/status/what have you in relation to BDSM is. So whilst waiting for some post production work on some photos to render, I began browsing the Switches group on FL. I snickered from the irony as I scrolled down to this post by lil ole me exactly one year ago:

i’ve always been dominant in my day to day life, mainly out of necessity because if i wouldnt do things they just didnt get done.

so when i found kink, being submissive truly spoke to me. when i first got into it, i wanted NOTHING to do with being on top. i wanted to be used, owned, made to do things.. and i still do

but as time went on, it became more and more apparent i had switch leanings. i refused to even SAY the word switch for about 6 months. but friends kept asking me to top them and sometimes the thought appealed to me. then there are the toys and the skill. i wanted to learn something new, how to wield a flogger or a whip, how to construct a scene. A BDSM scene is equal parts artistry, skill and energy/connection for me.. and it is a constant challenge to just get better and better. i do love a good challenge

these days, its becoming increasingly apparent that i am really a submissive who enjoys being a service top, which looked at from the right angle is just one more extension of being submissive really.

so no big light switch for me, it was a gradual process and its still evolving. ask me in a year and who knows what i’ll identify as

I really should stop being so damn self prophetic.

So what DO I identify as? Hoo boy.. here we go..ready for the big year long build up?

No clue.

Depends on how you gauge it I guess. If you go by how I generally play in public I’m a top. Kind of a service top but not as much these days. These days its ‘I really wanna do this kinda scene.. you in?’ rather than a year ago when it was ‘oh you want xyz? i can do that!’ So if we are speaking of playing publicly I’d say top.

Then it gets fuzzy. I WANT to interact more in a submissive headspace but am finding that the pool of prospective partners narrows by the month for varying reasons. (sometimes it really is a shame BDSM is not more of a solitary activity). I could compromise a bit which would certainly ensure more frequent play but would feel much less authentic. And thats really where I crave it, in the realms of intensity, authenticity, power games and mind fucks. You dont let just anyone play there. So  I hold out for quality over quantity. My own requirements limit the field quite a bit and in the most frustrating turn of events ever, it seems my standards are also intimidating to many which all but obliterates the field entire. This has been extremely disheartening.

Private play has been not near as frequent as I’d prefer. At home I am always submissive/bottom. Always. Could not and would not ever switch on my primary. (That’s just for me/us, not necessarily applicable to anyone else). But life gets in the way as it is often want to do. External and internal relationship stressors have simply put play very low on the priority list. We can dream of Roissy all we like but as anyone whose been in this for a while can atest, sometimes reality and practicality intervene on our fantasy life.

So if you balance my actual play time vs my desire for headspaces I’d prefer to play in you get: switch. I am oddly quite back to where I started. It certainly took a heck of a lot of stuff to get right back where I began. Alot of growth, agonizing, processing, playing, talking, reading, nothing, and lots of stuff in between. I dare not ask where I will a year from now.. I fear it may just kill me yet! But at the very least it wont be boring.

May you live in interesting times.. and hopefully live to tell the tale.

Congratulations everyone and to the winners!!!!!!!!

We had a contest at my group on Fetlife, the BDSM Toys Craft Corner, where we awaited the 6,666 member to join us. We asked fellow members to donate a homemade toy. Well we got 30 donations! WOW. So the 6,666 member automatically won and the other toys were drawn randomly amongst the pool of members. That moment came Saturday night (when I was not even home), May 30th, 2009.

Read more on this month’s KSL Beat

As some of you may know I run the BDSM Toys Craft Corner on Fetlife. Since its beginning is has always been on the top list of most popular groups, we are close to 6,200 members.

A while back one of my co-leaders suggested a fun contest….the 6,666th member should get a prize. With that number fast approaching the contest is now live. Here is a snippet from that discussion:

We want to do something special and award a prize to our 6,666th member, as well as perhaps drawings for prizes for other members, in honor of reaching this 6,666 member milestone! We are asking anyone who would like to donate (which includes you paying the shipping) any new (not used) toy or craft to please get in contact with any one of the moderators of this group. Thanks!

Well we will have a lot of winners because I estimate we will have somewhere between 20 and 40 donations! WOW

Of course I added a nice incentive:

I will also publish this list on my contributor blog kinkysexlink.com in June or July (assumming we hit 6666) for 1 month in the article of the month to spread the word and give you publicity. That is good free publicity!

So if you are on Fetlife come join us at BDSM Toys Craft Corner . We have a great time sharing how-to’s for toys.

Thank you to all our donators so far. If you would like to donate a toy as well please get in touch with me here

Mystress Lady Evyl

As I wrote last week I was asked to be a part of a fashion show, so I have an update. First, I didn’t fall and bust my ass while working the floor. As one would expect it was a mad house. And before the evening was over I was through with smelling my favorite things, latex and leather. Lady Sabrina was the only designer to have all women in her show. So you could imagine the look on our faces when one of the organizers walked in and started to scream. “oh my god what are those things?” Or something like that, yep he was referring to our breast. Lady Sabrina has some beautiful clothes, and was determined to make me a girl. I had eyed  a skirt I wanted to wear. So before the show I stepped outside to have a smoke and pray to the BDSM Goddess I’d get to wear it. While running for the elevator who would be there, but Mistress Mir. The Goddess just might have heard my prayer.

The skirt I wanted to wear was similar to the one Darque de Sade had photographed Mistree Mir in. There was a conspiracy between Lady Sabrina and Ms. Pedals to make me look and walk like woman. The first outfit was a short sliver dress with a plugging neck line, which I had to keep pulling down since I am a sista in the back. I couldn’t believe she wouldn’t let me wear my timberlines with it. I did ask.  As I slipped on the skirt of my second outfit and was cinched into the corset I really could say I was as happy as a little girl. Corset tight boots fierce. I was so excited I told one of the guys that Mistress Mir was here and that the skirt was similar. I wanted to bow or something when I passed her, or should I curtsy? Well I should have known curtsy I was talking to gay guys.

I took their advice and when passing Mistress Mir I curtsied.

The Master of ceremony BK which I don’t believe stands for burger king was a lot of fun and I could not tell you what came over me. Maybe it was the skirt or the boots but I threw a little shade, and I gave him the hand. And in true form he threw some shade back. It was all in fun and what’s a little shade for charity?

There’s more but that will have to wait.

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Bettie Page, a 1950s pinup known internationally for her raven-haired bangs and saucy come-hither looks, and a Fetish Icon the world over for her open and new posture on sexuality, was identified as in a coma in intensive care after suffering a heart attack.

The secretary-turned-model was admitted to hospital last month, suffering from pneumonia. She had a heart attack while there and never regained consciousness.

Page is credited with helping set the stage for the sexual revolution of the rebellious 1960s. She attracted national attention with magazine photographs of her sensuous figure that were tacked up on walls across the country. She featured in posters and photographs.

However not everyone was happy with the pictures. Some US lawmakers were concerned they amounted to pornography and subpoenaed Page to testify at a congressional hearing, although in the end she never had to appear.

Bettie Mae Page was born in Nashville, Tennessee, in 1923. Her career took off after an amateur photographer in New York asked her to pose for pictures in 1950. Her photos included a centerfold in the January 1955 issue of then-fledgling Playboy magazine, as well as controversial sadomasochistic poses.

Playboy founder Hugh Hefner called her a “very dear person”

“I think that she was a remarkable lady, an iconic figure in pop culture who influenced sexuality, taste in fashion, someone who had a tremendous impact on our society,” Hefner was quoted as saying.

Page later spent decades away from the public eye, and during that time battled illness. She was married three times but had no children.

After resurfacing in the 1990s, she occasionally granted interviews but refused to allow her picture to be taken.Looking back on her career, she told Playboy in 1998: “I never thought it was shameful. I felt normal. It’s just that it was much better than pounding a typewriter eight hours a day, which gets monotonous.”

The announcement came late Friday Night.

“With deep personal sadness I must announce that my dear friend and client Bettie Page passed away at 1841 this evening in a Los Angeles hospital,” her agent Mark Roesler said.

“She captured the imagination of a generation with her free spirit and unabashed sensuality”, he said. “She is the embodiment of beauty”.

I am a big fan of DIY. I have always been crafty. In college I studied arts. That did not become a career path. But art remains a constant present in my life. So when BDSM became a norm for me I had to combine the two. And this passion led me to create the BDSM Toys Crafter Corner group on Fetlife.

Funny how I often get the comment “I hope a sub did it for you”…why I like doing it. And I don’t think the sub would do it better. Sometimes we are best served by ourselves. Enjoy the pics!

Yes I can take orders

Mystress Lady Evyl