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Review: Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes

Posted by Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek on Wednesday Dec 3, 2008 Under Bondage, Reviews, Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek, Shibari

Despite absolutely loving rope bondage I really have only owned one bondage book before now, The Erotic Bondage Handbook, which isn’t exactly for beginners. It has great information within it, but assumes you know knots and ties already, unlike Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes. Two Knotty Boys is a rope bondage instruction manual that is wonderful for beginners because it not only explains how to do different knots which you may or may not already know, and 37 different ties, but it also has pictures with captions detailing each knot and tie so that you can follow along easily.

I had absolutely no trouble in following the step-by-step instructions in Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes. It is extremely helpful for the visual learner, since it’s easy to duplicate what you see in the images.

The book is separated into six basic sections: Introduction, The Knots, Basic Bondage, Decorative Bondage, Dominance Bondage, and Sex Bondage. The introduction gives you some basic ideas about rope bondage safety and different types of rope so that you are fully aware of the tools you need and how to be safe before engaging in the techniques described in the later sections.

The Knots goes over a number of basic knots and weaves as well as more complex ones like the trinity (celtic) knot. I thought I would have trouble with some of them, but most of them were easy to duplicate on the first or second try due to the picture guides.

Basic Bondage includes a few basic restraints, a rope spreader bar (they call “basic wrap”), rope shackle, anke wrap, a harness, and a gorgeous “dragonfly sleeve” which is kind of like rope armbinders (though prettier). They are all, pretty much, exactly as it says: basic. These are ties that don’t really require huge amounts of experience or talent to pull off, they are simple and easy to follow, as is evidenced by the basic wrap I put on Onyx (see picture). However, just because they are basic doesn’t mean they are not pretty on the eye or useful.

Decorative Bondage is, well, filled with exactly that: bondage that is more for show than for functionality. It includes a corset, gauntlets (on the model on the front of the book), bra, panties, “good luck knot” harness (which is based around the “good luck knot” which is a five-sided knot–it is also on the model on the front of the book), and a bodysuit. Each compliments the wearer well, and while they are slightly more difficult than the basic bondage section they are also fairly easy once you get the knot techniques down. I made the panty which consists of a trinity knot (the celtic knot I mentioned earlier) and snake weave. It was very easy to make once I had the knot and weave down.

Dominance Bondage is more the type of bondage that we think of when wanting to tie someone up. It’s functional bondage that’s more intricate than the basic bondage but that can turn our willing victims into helpless slaves (or subs or bottoms as the case may be). It consists of three harnesses that don’t just decorate the body they also capture the wrists behind the back or neck, a hogtie, a bit gag, a bridle, and a “rope cage” which traps the body in a sort of rope bodysuit.

Sex Bondage is, well, exactly that. While there is a bit of overlap in Dominance Bondage and Sex Bondage, as much of Dominance Bondage could be used during sex, Sex Bondage focuses on affixing items to the rope wearer. It has a table top tie, two chair ties (kneeling facing the back of the chair, and sitting in the chair), and a rope strap-on harness. Each of these leave the wearer ready for sex, either open and unable to escape or with a new sex toy attached to fuck with.

All the ties are easy to do once you practice the knots a bit and with a willing and patient partner. I’ve only done a small amount of the ties that I hope and plan on doing, both on myself and on Onyx, but I feel more knowledgeable after reading through Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes than I was before, and possibly ready to take on the first bondage book I bought after getting these basics down.

The best part about Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes is that it is so accessible and easy beginners with little to no rope technique knowledge can pick it up and start rigging instantly. It makes fancy-looking ties and harnesses seem like a breeze to do. I would imagine it would be a great staple for intermediate or advanced riggers to have around the house as well, as it is much easier to follow than a text-only book.

With the holidays coming up, as well, it can make the perfect gift! You can get it for a loved one (or fuck buddy) as a hint that you would like to be tied up or tie them up. Or, if you know someone interested in rope bondage that hasn’t really given it a try it is the perfect book for them as well! As a gift or for yourself Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes is a wonderful book with useful ties for all.

-Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek

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In the spirit of Xmas…

Posted by Mistress160 on Monday Dec 15, 2008 Under CBT, Cunnilingus, D/s, Fetish, Masturbation, Mistress 160, Nipple Torture, Orgasm Control, Queening/Facesitting

This post was on Mistress160’s Abode but has been so popular I thought I’d xpost here :). I recently purchased some cute reindeer pegs, but was at a loss how to use them until I saw Miss Bonnie’s latest contest at CollarNCuffs: the Dickoration Contest!:

“Why not have a penis decorating competition. What better way is there is to have a truly perverted Femdom Christmas? This is your chance to shine and show us all how clever, and creative you are!”

Inspired, I directed my husband solipsist to lie down on our black fake fur rug and proceeded to decorate his genitals with reindeer…

The packet contained 10 reindeer and some silver string. I think the idea is that you hang your Xmas cards off the string by the reindeer pegs. But what marvelous CBT potential! First I instructed sol to tie up his balls with the silver string:

Then as an introduction I placed the reindeer in a line under his balls, just to get him in the mood, pain wise:

Then I began moving the pegs from beneath his balls to the base of his cock:

He started making small noises. “Do I have your attention?”, says Ms160. “Yes, Ma’am”. Excellent. I continued to place the reindeer in single file up his cock:

Soon they were all in position. “Damn” says Ms160, “I need more, I should have bought another packet!”. Sol whimpered. I started moving the reindeer around, tickling his balls:

and sweeping my hand over the reindeer to move the whole line… “Tis the season to be jolly” sings Ms160 as she adds sol’s nipple pasties (from his earlier striptease performance) to his balls:

“Time to start removing them!” says Ms160 way too cheerfully, as she takes off the peg at the base of sol’s cock:

And begins transferring them to sol’s nipples:

Stopping now and then to make sure sol’s erection was still keeping the other reindeer in line, so to speak…

I sat back and admired my handiwork:

Very nice :).

“Not many more to go” I said, as I carefully moved towards the final reindeer. Sol’s nipples were completely covered now…

Sol groaned. I wiggled all the reindeer on each nipple and sang more Xmas carols…

He had been such a good boy, first with his striptease performance and had really turned me on, especially when he waggled his bottom at me in the silk panties with “I love you” written on them (see photo below):

He deserved a reward, and so did I. I took the panties and quickly tied them on (they have bows at the side) then lowered myself over sol’s face, facing his body so I could admire my handiwork:

Such a nice sight! I lowered myself onto sol’s face and ground myself against him, then lifted off again. I could feel the silk getting very wet. “You may give me a single lick every time I removed a peg” I instructed, as I undid the side bow of the silk panties, allowing them to fall away. I positioned myself just above him, then removed the first peg…. “one” I said.

His tongue worked frantically … “Stop! I told you one lick per peg … now make that one lick count! …. Two!”. This time he obeyed, with a long lick from front to back. “That’s better … three!”. Another long lick … but it was all getting too much again …

“Stop! Wait!”. He groaned into my pussy. I swear that’s one of the most erotic things, having your submissive groan with pain into your cunt. I was instantly twice as wet. Dammit and I’d just limited my pussy licks. Hang on, I had an idea … “Four and five” I said, removing two reindeer at once…

And so on, until all the reindeer were nestling on his chest in a pile. I began to undo the silver string around his balls, then wiggled further on his face. My left hand began to masturbate him, and within moments I heard a muffled “Mistress may I come?”. I grinned. “You may”. I leaned forward to watch and was immediately covered with come.

“Hmmm”, I mused as I wiped come and sweat across sol’s mouth, “we got some good photos but which one will I enter in this contest?!”. Anyone out there have a favorite?!

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Drop that Top

Posted by ldyraven on Sunday Dec 21, 2008 Under Caning, Kink, Life, Play Parties, Relationships

Recently I had the pleasure of taking part of a discussion were the topic of top drop was brought up. Many in the conversation didn’t think it was much of an issue, and why should they? They were bottoms. And for this post I’ll refer to the people involved as top and bottom.

When asked if they did anything for the top that they have the pleasure to be topped by all of them gave a blank stare. Some of us gave examples of how top drop effects us, and you would have thought we were speaking another language, or giving details of some horrific crime. The looks on their faces showed they had no idea or had given no thought to what happens to tops after a scene. And why would they? We always hear about after care for the bottom, but what of the top? This also holds true for the lamenting of the gift that bottoms give what gift? It stops being a gift to me when you go on and on about it, give it to me and shut the hell up about. And God forbid you ever hear mention of the gift tops give. Queue the crickets; yeah that’s what you’ll hear if you ever bring up that subject in some circles. Tops giving the “gift” heavens no.

In the same conversation I explained how much work it was to not only be a top, but to put a scene together. They (the bottoms) looked bored, but every top in the room was nodding their heads. We are the ones, who think about the temperature of the room.

What kind of music to play if any is there something to drink, the kind of scene that will happen and do we have everything we need for said scene?

And that all important question will the police break down my door and catch me assaulting the bottom? Yeah assault that’s what it’s called when you do bodily harm to someone. Even if they agree to come to you home and be tied down and caned. I’m charged with assault, but thank goodness the bottom is protected.

Even if the police don’t break down my door and drag me off to jail, and I do get to do all the things that were agreed on. Afterwards, I’m expected to take care of the bottom. To console them, to gently bring them back from where, only they know.

After all the planning and executing of the scene, who takes care of top?

Think about?

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The only DIY Leather Hood on the net

Posted by Mystress Lady Evyl on Sunday Dec 7, 2008 Under BDSM, Bondage, DIY Toys, Mystress Lady Evyl

x-post from Lady Evyl

I have searched high and low for instruction to make a full leather hood without success. Really, I looked once in a while for a couple of weeks. Then I turned to my BDSM Toys Craft Corner group on Fetlife for help. Again, had some great suggestions but no one had A to Z instructions.

Well I gave it a shot with the ideas I had and now I will tell you how I did it. Hopefully many of you can benefit from it as well. It really helps if you know a bit about sewing. You will have to figure some thing out for yourself.

Now keep in mind that these instructions are to make a CUSTOM FITTED HOOD for the person who will wear it…and probably no one else. I tried this hood on others without success. Or you may make one and find you Cinderella sub for a glass slipper BDSM substitute lol.

1. Get some saran-wrap, tape, and rounded-edge scissors.

2. Time to mummify your head. Wrap your head up with saran-wrap completely. Make sure you have 2 layers when all done. Along the way make whole for you to breathe (its not a breath play session, you are making something here) and you can also cut out the eyes to see what you are doing.

3. Get your tape out and tape your head completely up everywhere. Cover all the saran-wrap. Again make holes to breathe.

4. Make one cut long enough to remove the hood. Tape the cut up. So now you end up (see pics below) with the 3D shape of your head.

5. Cut it into 3 pieces as show below. You will have a long rectangle (side and top of head), the front and the back. It won’t be flat. So make slits in the patterns to get a flat piece (see PINK arrows). Now you have a basic flat pattern to use.

6. Cut a rectangle that is about 4-5 inches wide and the length of the back of your hood. This will be the flap at the back.

7. Place your pattern on your leather and draw out our shapes.

8. Add a seam allowance, about 1/2 in everywhere, even on the slits…except on the big back closure slit. Add a few inches in length to the rectangle (mine was to short and I had to add a piece). Cut out your pieces and slits.

9. Star sewing up all your slits…except on the big back closure slit.

10. Sew the flap to the inside of the back piece (see blue lines above)

11. Sew your 3 pieces back together. For the back closure just fold back about 1/2 in and sew it down for a clean edge. The neck part may be a bit uneven so cut around it to make a straight line. I added a band of black leather for trim, just folded in half for a clean finish.

12. Cut out mouth, nose (a triangle) and eyes. For the mouth and eyes make tiny slits and fold back to sew the edge clean. The nose you need to add a bigger triangle sew into the two top triangle lines….cause if you just make a little hole your nose will be squashed inside. Anyways that is what I did.

Now you have the basic hood sewn up.

13. Time to make the back closure. I punched small holes every 1 inch and then attached little eyelets. Lace with a shoe lace.

14. If desired, make separate blindfold and mouth piece and add snaps so you can attach them to the hood for a sensory deprivation experience.

Here are pics of the finished hood

Mystress Lady Evyl

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Fetish Interview - Female Domination with Mistress160

Posted by ExploringIntimacy on Wednesday Dec 24, 2008 Under BDSM

Mistress160 Showing Some Leg

Please welcome Mistress160, an Australian lifestyle dominant and fetish educator who lives in a 24/7 female dominant relationship with her masochist and submissive husband solipsist. This might just be our best interview to date, so get ready to hear it straight from this amazing woman’s fingers!

Mistress160 - Such a Tease!

Please tell us, what is your fetish?

I don’t have a single fetish. If you wanted to put a very specific label on me I am a female dominant who practices BDSM, which covers a wide range of fetishes and kinks. I am also a sadist, which means I enjoy the infliction of pain on a consensual partner. My husband is a masochist who enjoys receiving pain. He is also submissive, which complements my own dominant side. We have been together many years.

How common do you think your fetish is?

ms160_mask4 BDSM is more common than most people think. A recent academic study presented at the World Association of Sexual Health Congress in Sydney revealed that two per cent of Australian men and 1.4 per cent of women admit to enjoying dominance, submission and sadomasochism-type sex in the past year. However researchers involved in the phone survey of 20,000 people say they expect many more Australians are engaging in the practice but unwilling to label it BDSM (bondage, discipline, domination and submission). If I may quote a local newspaper:

“There will definitely be more men and women who have sexual tastes in this direction but won’t call it this,” said Dr Juliet Richters, of the University of New South Wales. “They might not like sex magazines but they just happen to like being tied up and spanked as part of foreplay. Ask them if they’re into BDSM they’ll say ‘Yuck, no’.” People who engaged in the habit were more likely to be sexually adventurous in other ways, like trying anal sex and phone sex, looking at internet pornography or using sex toys. “These are people for whom sex is a hobby,” Dr Richters said.

“Researchers said the study helps break down the reigning stereotype that people into bondage and discipline were damaged as children and were therefore “dysfunctional”. “We really found that BDSM is simply a sexual interest or subculture attractive to a minority, not a pathological symptom of past abuse or difficulty with ‘normal’ sex,” Dr Richters said. “They’ve just got a broader and more unusual sexual repertoire than most.” (source)

Female Domination is also very popular within the kinky community. Wikipedia describes it as referring “to BDSM activities where the dominant partner is female; the submissive partner may be of either sex. It can also refer to non BDSM based relationships, that are based on power exchange and Dominance and submission, where the general overall relationship dynamic is female led, and the female dominance is not solely, or only partly defined on BDSM interests”.

Does your fetish, or people who participate in it, have any catchy titles?

BDSM stands for many subdivisions in kinky culture: B&D (bondage and discipline), D/s (domination and submission) and S&M (sadism and masochism). You can read more about the term on Wiki.

And of course FemDom, for female domination.

Does your fetish impact your daily life?

Absolutely. Firstly, the kinky relationship I enjoy with my husband is central to our lives. In fact, we recently moved from suburbia to an isolated environment with complete privacy so as to take our relationship further.

Secondly, I am very active in BDSM education, both real time and online, because there is concern within the kinky community of the standard of education available to new kinksters online. My BDSM For Beginners blog has become very popular, and I also moderate several kinky forums and educational / support groups.

This means during a typical day in cyber space you might find me teaching an online training course to male submissives, or moderating a discussion in my new female sub group, or judging a cross dressing photo contest. In real time I might be caning my husband, writing an article for (Australia’s alternative journal) Kink-E Magazine or organizing a kinky or sex educational event. Actually this week I’m in Sydney helping with Midori’s latest educational tour in Oz, organized by Uber.

So as you can see, kinky life is always interesting!

How do you incorporate your fetish into your sexual experiences?

As Wiki noted, some people keep their BDSM play separate to sex but we don’t. With BDSM the possibilities and variations are endless. We enjoy forced chastity, orgasm denial, bondage, queening, forced feminization and pegging (strap-on play) as well as impact play (such as caning, flogging, hot wax play and cock and ball torture). We also practice what’s called Edge Play (fire play, fire cupping, electrical play, play piercing, knife play etc).

There are many examples of how we incorporate these into our sex life on my blog Mistress160’s Abode, but please don’t go there unless you are okay with pix of BDSM play, because all my posts are illustrated very graphically.

Is there anything you have to be particularly careful about with this fetish? If so, how do you handle it?

I’ve been speaking in very general terms so this is a bit hard to answer, but of course yes there are risks with any BDSM play, especially impact play and edge play. Players in the kinky community practice codes called Safe, Sane and Consensual and Risk Aware Consensual Kink.

What really works for you about this fetish, what aspects turn you on?

Submission itself is an incredible turn on, the power exchange involved. There is something incredibly erotic about having a man on his knees. Plus my husband’s masochistic nature allows me to express my own sadistic desires as well as providing a challenge to discover new ways to provide intense sensation for him.

How do people react when you share your fetish with them, if anyone knows?

Most kinksters have to conceal their desires and interests from what we call the vanilla world. However, within the kinky community our kind of lifestyle is regarded as quite normal. This is why I encourage people to find their local scene - being around like minds provides support, networking and friendship.

How do you go about finding partners that share your interest?

I’ve been lucky in that my life partner shares my interests, being both submissive and a masochist. However if I was looking for a partner I would look both online (via alternative lifestyle sites like alt.com, collarme.com, mydungeonspace.com and fetlife.com) and within my local scene. I’ve written about how to find your local scene on my BDSM for Beginners blog here.

Can you recommend any resources for people who want to learn more or might even share your fetish?

I highly recommend Midori’s “Wild Side Sex: the book of kink”, which covers a wide range of educational and erotic topics. As someone concluded in their 2006 Amazon.com review: “It feeds your mind, your imagination, your soul, and is also educational. Midori is a treasure”. I also encourage everyone (not just kinksters but anyone interested in adventurous sex) to attend her classes, which are held worldwide. You can find out more about her books and classes at her website.

Online, my BDSM For Beginners blog is a good place to start, for general practical information, while my personal blog provides a good example of a Femdom marriage at work. Collarncuffs.com provides wonderful Femdom resources, plus a very active forum.

Anything else you would like to add?

I’m often asked for further details about my D/s marriage. If anyone reading this is interested you can find my back story here:

A D/s Life: Becoming dominant

A D’s Life: Becoming Mistress160