Kinky Sex Link

Would you tackle a rape fantasy in one of your stories? How about an adult male having forced sex with a teenaged girl? Those are two story lines I’ve run across over the past month, which made me think about exactly where erotica and erotic romance writing is going. I personally am not turned on by the extremes in the genres that I enjoy so much. Also, since I used to work in family law and child welfare as an activist and political writer, nothing nauseates me more than child rape, paedophilia, and incest. So any story that smacks of paedophilia will get a quick Red Light from me. Those kinds of stories appeal too much to the sickos out there who refer to people who try to help abused children as “child savers” who don’t “understand” the difference between love and abuse. Makes me want to puke.

I have been given a reviewer’s copy of the book “Wetlands”, which has been a sensation in Europe, and is now released in the U. S. Whilst it is hailed as a sensation by some reviewers, others have called is poorly disguised porn. It’s a very frank discussion of a young woman who is initially hospitalized after a pubic shaving accident, and it’s supposed to be a quite sexually graphic depiction of her life. No problem there. That’s why I requested it. Once I read it, I’ll add my own thoughts. I like reading very sexually graphic books because they’re entertaining and I often learn something very revealing about myself and about society in general from them. How we react to graphic sex tells us a lot about ourselves. This kind of graphic sex seems to me to be different from the taboo sex I talked about at the beginning of this post, though, but the reactions are very educational.

I publisher I won’t named recently has been criticized for publishing these kinds of taboo stories. One web site that published such a story without knowing what it was getting itself into had removed the post, and the author complained about censorship. At least the author was given the right to voice an opinion about the matter. Lots of authors aren’t given that much. Another incident involved the aforementioned publisher that had been the subject of complaints because of the taboo subject matter behind some of the stories it had published. Why this publisher was under the gun made me wonder, since other publishers and books with similar subject matter had not received complaints, so I don’t know what the big deal was.

The main point here is how much is too much? I remember a writer saying that a few years ago you wouldn’t have read an anal sex scene in a story. I’m not sure how accurate that was, but I understood the point. These days, anal sex scenes are commonplace. Menage wasn’t also as popular years ago as it is now. It’s actually growing into a rather hot genre. I really don’t see a problem with any sex act as long as it is between consenting adults. As I said, the only ones I have problems with are child rape, incest, and paedophilia. I really don’t have a problem with forced rape fantasies because I understand the difference between actual rape and the rape fantasy.

I’m working on a novella called “Dangerous Curves” that is a sexually candid journey of a young woman’s sexual exploits during the Big Hair 1980s in the U. S. She is a sexually free spirit who does not want to be tied down, and the men around her aren’t used to seeing a woman like that. While they enjoy her body, they want to keep her for themselves, and at the same time they expect to be allowed to play the field. The book explores the double standards about men’s and women’s sexual explorations, thoughts about virginity, playing the field, infidelity, power plays in sexuality, older men/younger women, cougars, and sexual independence. I hope to have the book finished by the end of spring, and by then I will submit it to publishers. This book is very sexually graphic, and it is not a romance. Is sex for sex’s sake too much, especially if the character enjoying sexuality without romance is a woman?

How far have you gone in your stories? What have you read that you thought was over the line? Have you ever received complaints that any of your stories have crossed the line? Are some sexually graphic stories really meant to shock rather than to make the audience think? What do you think?