Cross-posted from The Enigmatic Angel
It was a blog post on KinkySexLink, that triggered my thoughts on the age factor, in the local BDSM scene & BDSM/Fetish audiences in general.
There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that the fetish events in town (that´s the fetish ones – not the BDSM ones) have a majority of young kinksters. And honestly, alot of the marketing is geared at that demographic.
I see more & more events and things being organized for the under 40 (and under 35 crowd). I even saw an interesting kinky vampire movie casting call out recently – and all the female characters were young.
Is that what people want to see? Do these young kinksters who keep getting younger, all want to run away from the older pervs?
I´ve heard that even expressed from friends as well, that emphasis on looking for someone/something young & hot.
I find this highly ironic in some ways. In my vanilla life, about 90% of my friends are younger than I am. I still feel like a kid myself inside. I have no problem relating to those younger friends. And they seem to get something positive out of my friendship with them.
I don´t feel old, but lots of segments in our society would classify me as old because I´m 40. What is 40 supposed to feel like? I don´t feel old. If anything, I actually felt freer & younger when I turned 40. It´s the fearless factor I think. Suddenly I didn´t give a damn about many things and just want to drink life in. It´s been great.
But I remember being in my 20s and thinking 40 was ancient. Hmm maybe I should scratch that. Looking back, I dated/saw/played with several men who were in their 40s, when I was in my 20s.
I see that age attitude today, in the local kinky scenes.
Oh yes, there is a good strong contingent of the 40 + and even 50+ crowd.
Personally, I feel comfortable talking to everyone young, old & everyone.
But I don´t understand this great prizing of the young, hot kinksters – why so many seek this young flesh to play with and preference for it. I prize maturity over youth. By then again, my ideas of beauty in general I have come to realize so many times, are quite different from the norm. I have been with many different kinds of men. Some men that I was seeing that made women jealous because they were perceived as being ¨gorgeous¨, others who may have seemed ordinary to different eyes. All of them had something special for me. Just as my taste in women is quite different as well.
So where is this kinky age thing going?
When all those aging kinky babyboomers retire from the scene, will the kinky youngsters inherit the earth?
Kinky food for thought.
Angel