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cross-posted from The Enigmatic Angel

Lady Gaga – Bad Romance

It was an odd thing the way this just struck me.

Anyone who knows me, knows I dislike following the mainstream.
My taste is the alternative layer of the alternative layer, multiplied.

But a sound and a vision slipped through and snuck in.
I was fascinated and drawn in, almost against my will.
It was like witnessing and being in a car crash at the same time.
And still wanting more.

Two words, simply put: Lady Gaga.

I love her videos, her creative vision, her ridiculously catchy, contagious and absurd beats and lyrics.

She’s crazy. She’s weird. She’s fascinating.
The fetish gear and fetishes. The dark & kinky story lines of her music videos.

Just look at her face. Odd features. Plain if you wash away all the dramatic make-up.
But an interesting canvas.

Is she a she/he? Transgendered? A woman? Who knows.

And this Lady business.

It begs the question: Is she really into BDSM, what with the honorific title and all?

Or is she just a shrewd marketer who knew how to create her vision, make it appeal to the masses, with flirting with the deeper end?

Just for fun, I searched on Fetlife to see what fetishes and kink can be found related to her, because surely amongst the kinksters and BDSMers there are the ones who worship at the Haus of Gaga.

Yes kinky folks she is on FetlIfe!! She’s here.
That’s if she turned back the clock (all of 18 years old) and moved to Rio.

Oh and other fun gagalicious-related FetLife stuff:

One Fetlife Group:
OMFG… I just fucked Lady Gaga: A survivor’s support group..

Two gagalicious fetishes:

Here is something I never do.
I am posting a video with this, just because.
The video is simply gagalicious and must be.

Kinky kisses,
Angel

cross-posted from The Enigmatic Angel

Ah it was good to be back, back in the public kinky waters of Montreal.
Attending the FetLife Munch felt like kind of going home again.

I was happy to see a few of my favorite usual suspects. Like my good friend and some time *evyl* co-conspirator Mystress Lady Evyl, and one of my very favorite couples in our local scene MsV (our gracious hostess) and Master Andre, her fellow whipmaking partner.

Oh and what fun it was to slap hello my fellow Switch drakor, who I hadn’t seen in awhile. I do believe that small slap put a little twinkle in his eye. And what are friends for?

It was also fun to meet some intriguing new people, including a warm & entertaining couple of out-of-towners.

And you never know where the conversation can lead during a Munch. Topics ran from the Intellikilt (you just had to see it to believe it) and the legendary practical jokes between John Baku (boy wonder founder of Fetlife) and MasterZChicago.

I picked a great event for my return to the public scene – laid-back, fun & funny conversation with fellow BDSMers and kinksters, over some tasty seafood and steak. I actually liked the fact that it was a smaller crowd as well, was easier to talk to people.

My plan had originally been to go on to one of the other many happenings in town. Three other tempting events in the dark side were also going on during the night. I was really interested in finally attending one of KinkMontreal’s little happy hours, which was scheduled a bit later on in the night. But seeing as I had a vanilla date planned for the morning, I decided to call it a night, as my fellow Munchers went each to continue their wicked evening with more dark fun in the night.

It felt good to be out again and happy I was to be in the kink-friendly Gay Village.

Being back in the Village made me remember how much I love roaming around that neighborhood. I love seeing all the wonderfully exotic range of gender-bending human creatures who stroll through the Village on a hot summer night.

Little snapshots caught my attention as I headed off home.

There a couple of gorgeous young boys casually walking together hand in hand.

Oh and a bashful pretty girl in a summery cotton white dress, eyes meekly looking down. Her black leather collar and silvery leash attached making a lovely contrast. Ah how tempting it was to just reach out and take that leash….somewhere.

And I headed on home still smiling my Mona Lisa smile filled with secret thoughts and thinking how very interesting my life is these days.

It’s so true how life brings such wonderful things when you have no expectations.

Kinky food for thought,
Angel

Congratulations everyone and to the winners!!!!!!!!

We had a contest at my group on Fetlife, the BDSM Toys Craft Corner, where we awaited the 6,666 member to join us. We asked fellow members to donate a homemade toy. Well we got 30 donations! WOW. So the 6,666 member automatically won and the other toys were drawn randomly amongst the pool of members. That moment came Saturday night (when I was not even home), May 30th, 2009.

Read more on this month’s KSL Beat

As some of you may know I run the BDSM Toys Craft Corner on Fetlife. Since its beginning is has always been on the top list of most popular groups, we are close to 6,200 members.

A while back one of my co-leaders suggested a fun contest….the 6,666th member should get a prize. With that number fast approaching the contest is now live. Here is a snippet from that discussion:

We want to do something special and award a prize to our 6,666th member, as well as perhaps drawings for prizes for other members, in honor of reaching this 6,666 member milestone! We are asking anyone who would like to donate (which includes you paying the shipping) any new (not used) toy or craft to please get in contact with any one of the moderators of this group. Thanks!

Well we will have a lot of winners because I estimate we will have somewhere between 20 and 40 donations! WOW

Of course I added a nice incentive:

I will also publish this list on my contributor blog kinkysexlink.com in June or July (assumming we hit 6666) for 1 month in the article of the month to spread the word and give you publicity. That is good free publicity!

So if you are on Fetlife come join us at BDSM Toys Craft Corner . We have a great time sharing how-to’s for toys.

Thank you to all our donators so far. If you would like to donate a toy as well please get in touch with me here

Mystress Lady Evyl

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(crossposted from my blog)

There was a discussion on fetlife about whether people ever read aloud to their partners. I think this is the first time I’ve ever seen this topic come up on a kink forum, and I was amazed at how many responses it got.

When R. and I were first together he read Harpo Speaks to me because it’s his favourite book. It was wonderful to spend the cold winter weekends on the couch listening to such an amazing autobiography.

A lot of people mentioned that they read erotic to each other, and some said they tended to read non-fiction kink books like S/M101 or The Loving Dominant as a way to open communication and get inspired.

I think this is a fantastic idea, and it’s one I very much recommend to people as a way to keep up with the dynamics of the relationship in long-term relationships. Sceneing constantly is not practical or realistic and just leads to burn-out, in my experience. Reading to each other helps keep things fresh, and can work well into all kinds of kink-oriented relationships.

It can also inspire people when the energy is flagging due to real-world intrusions.

The reading R. does allows him to share things he thinks his little girl should know about. Pop/Hollywood culture from the 40′s-70′s, is a big favourite of his, and he loves to share it with me. I’m just old enough to remember vaguely some of the personalities he reads to me about (George Burns, The Marx Bothers, etc…) which makes it fun.

The idea is that it gives him Daddy-time and puts me into little girl headspace; especially when he tucks me into bed and reads me to sleep. I really adore the closeness and security it gives me.

Nurturing these kinds of simple joys can play quite a significant role in building very strong – and binding – rituals in a relationship.

Oddly enough, although I write erotca I’ve never read it aloud at anyone. I’ll have to add that to my To-Do list.

Seems reading out loud to your partner is one of those less spoken about activities that many of us indulge in. Since It’s one that seems to have a lot of different functions in relationships I’d sure love to hear other people’s experiences around this activity.